Debate

I will always hate that people think homophobia is okay. I hate it. I hate everything about it. It is scary to think that in my lifetime it will always exist. Its only because people don’t seem to understand what it feels like. Its not by any means okay and i resent the idea that its up for debate. My rights as a human are up for debate, i see it in casual conversation and on the news daily. I take great comfort in the fact that black people once were not allowed to exist for something that they could not control either, unless of course you're micheal Jackson. That's the thing though, you cant pick your sexuality or gender any more than you can pick your skin colour, i mean, you can try things out, you can experiment, you can get spray tans or girl/boy/other-friends and you might even cross dress on occasion but you are what you are in your heart and your mind and your personality and your core. You cant change that. And i hate the fact that people can judge you for it as if it is everyone's business and its up for debate. You cant debate a fact, its not a matter of art or literature, its like maths; there's one answer, and its me and my life so the answer is what in say it is, and i say that I am not up for debate, i am a person. Its like when i said that i was a lesbian to my friend. My friend asked me if i had slept with men before and i was honest, i said yes. She said that she didn’t consider me a lesbian then. Well i hate to break it to you, but its an I-dentity, not a YOU-dentity and if i identify as lesbian because i find women attractive currently then thats okay. Im sure she wouldn’t appreciate her telling me shes straight and then me saying “oh, but i don’t consider you straight because you've kissed girls at parties before” and if she says that's different because she was doing it to keep up appearances then thats exactly what i was doing dating men. I was keeping up appearances. I was trying to be ‘normal’, whatever that is. The fact that i had to try to change to avoid abuse and ridicule is awful though. You wouldn’t find a black person bleaching their skin to avoid racism, because racism now is 100% frowned upon, and i want to know why homophobia in this day and age isn’t. Racism is normally seen as wrong in most social circles, and yet homophobia is seen as a completely  acceptable dinner party debate. Well, ‘my personhood is not up for debate’ and what people don’t seem to grasp is the concept that LGBT people are people, and  they would very quickly chane their tune had they the ability to relate: had their own children come out to them and given them a new degree of empathy, on a personal level. I also fail to understand why the bible is bought into political debates. I wont go into why religion proves or disproves gods love or hate for homosexuals, but my point is that church and state are separate, so it shouldn’t even come into it.