We are 'human'

The whole ‘I am human’ thing pisses me off, because we are all different, and we have all spent hours and years of our lives finding our label to best explain to people our strife and pain and what makes us happy and comfortable, which is at he end of the day different for everyone. To be labelled as girl or a boy and to identify that way tells people that you like certain things and certain social interactions, and it allows us all to be civilized to each other, sensitive to each others preferences and wants, just as the identity of trans, gay, lesbian, pans and all other identities; they all means something, imply something,and to ignore that core part of someone is a bit of an insult in my opinion. 

I mean, if i say that I am gay and people to continue asking me why I don’t have a boyfriend yet, i would consider that person to be misinformed, then rude, then ultimately a bit dim. We are all human at the end of the day, but the recurring theme of annoyance that I have to deal with is when people say something along the lines of,

 "I believe that our sexuality sits on a spectrum and that gays and straights are just trying to label themselves because we are all somehow bisexual to varying degrees as humans"

That shit makes my blood boil. Then things get awkward, particularly when its the straight identifying white girl whose saying this, as they have all of the natural privileges to say such things. it is always the privilege who try to speak for the downtrodden and the few. They have never had dyke shouted at them in the street or spent late nights trolling the internet for gay to straight conversion sights crying. they have never looked down at themselves and felt so uncomfortable in themselves and so unlovable they have nearly taken a knife to their genitals, only to be told that they are all just trying to 'label themselves' to stand out because we are all the same. We are by no means all the same, and labels are core to your identity. They are the difference between having kinship and community with strangers wearing rainbow bracelets to feeling utterly and ashamedly alone. 

To be told that I am just trying to be different, and that we are all the same is a myth in itself, because we aren’t at all the same. As people, we all have different likes, dislikes, identities, personalities, bodies, and to say that we are all the same wipes away all of the anguish and struggle t hat I have been through to find myself and claim my label as my own. Gay people are not naturally 'proud'. we get that way through blood sweat and tears, that's it why there isn't a straight pride. because pride is the opposite of ashamed, and that is what most people in the community have felt about themselves, whole heartedly and fatally at times. We wear our LGBT label as a badge of honor, like a medal won in the war of society vs us, our own problems and our own identity. 

So no, we aren’t all the same and we aren’t all bisexual or open to different ‘gender roles’ or like to secretly cross dress because it is socially acceptable for women to wear jeans now or whatever it is you think some of us ‘get off on’...we are all different, as well as human. But more importantly, however different we all are, we should all be equal.